Love of our Children, Part IV 10~15~13

Good Morning, or perhaps it will be Good Day by the time you read this...whatever time it may be I pray there are nuggets of blessings to be found in the following words!

Yesterday we touched on the fact that Hannah and Elkanah, finally were able to have the child that dear Hannah had been so long, longing for.  And Hannah named this child Samuel, in a past chapter of my life I had a child and he was also named Samuel, and he was named this name because his father and I were actually speaking into our little Samuel's life.  I didn't realize this back then, but in looking back I can see that that is actually exactly what we did.  And the proof of this matter is that when Samuel was in his second year of life, he announced that he wanted to be a missionary...and of course this was applauded and feed into.

Is Samuel a missionary now in his 23rd year of life, well he is very close to being a missionary...every step he and his lovely wife take, is being taken with that direction in mind.

I believe that this poem was taken from the original writing by Dorothy Law Nolte, and it is important to give her, her due.  I have always liked and agreed with this writing.  And I feel it is terribly important that we speak good and positive things over our children. 

If you catch yourself speaking negative words over your child, you are actually speaking into his or her future...I am not saying we are fortune tellers, but children will grow into what is spoken over them again and again...so make sure that they hear positive rather than negative.  Besides that your life will be much more pleasant if your child is a happy and positive child rather than an unhappy, moody, and negative child...this can make life very unpleasant and quite contentious.   

Some of you who know me on a personal level, know that I have been married more than once, and please do not think that I am proud of this fact, frankly I am not at all happy that this occurred in my life, I had always dreamed that I would have married and had lots of children, and been happily married forever to the same man...did not happen the way that I had dreamed it would happen. But I believe that I am finally married to the man that Daddy God would have me to be married to, and yes we have a bunch of children, we have a blended family of Tim and I and a total of six children.  I sometimes say jokingly that it is probably a good thing that Tim and I didn't meet the first time around, because we might have had a dozen children, instead of just six.
Now Tim and I were not solely responsible for rearing all of these children, there were other parents involved and because of this I can see different parenting skills in each of these children, is this all good or all bad, neither, they are for the most part, very good parents, are there things that I would like to see done differently, absolutely.

There is always room for improvement.  

And when I make a statement like this, that also applies to me and to Tim, we try to be encourage-rs of our children and of our grandchildren, but when you see your family only on an occasional basis, this can be difficult to have stick.  Sometimes these words only stick, when the child or grandchild hears them frequently.

Do I wish I saw more of my grandchildren and children, yes I do. And I do believe that they are aware of this.  Will things change, probably not.  They are very busy families, and perhaps too busy, but that is there choice to make, and this is as it is supposed to be.

Tim and I can only look at our past and that is unfortunately or fortunately, depending on which side of the fence you are on, our history.  I remember spending just about every Sunday afternoon with my grandparents, sometimes at their home and sometimes at my parent's home.  And this is pretty much what Tim remembers as well.  Those were such fun times, and sometimes things change for a reason and sometimes they just change.

So my advice to the new families that are out there, if there is an opportunity to spend time with your family, do so, you may be surprised at the good that comes out of it.

Soon we will be celebrating Thanksgiving and hopefully all will be here and we will have a new Family Portrait!  But for now I sincerely pray that you have a blessed day, and that you will find someone to bless.